Iyoaye's Public Notes

I didn't have any idea of what to write because it is one of those days when I am in my feels and also not feeling up to it. I feel a little bit sad because it's an estranged friend's birthday and as much as I would want to wish them a happy birthday (probably send a gift), I am not quite sure of the reaction. It's also quite interesting because we have two different ideas/views of what the cause of the issue is and at this point 🤷🤷🤷. (Happy birthday to you) But while contemplating on whether to write or not, I thought about the need for my resolve for this blog - making sure that no 2 days go by without my writing something. This is considering different things happen during the course of my day, and it's worth reflecting and sharing in a place that's much saner than Twitter (now X) - here. At that moment, the word consistency popped in my head, and I was wondering what I'd consider to be the most consistent thing from my everyday life, and my answer wa...

    I wish dedicated more time to learning chess beyond the rudiments of movement, which I learned from the free version of Chess Pro on my first desktop computer. On the other hand, I spent some time playing draughts, aka checkers, with my friends after exams in secondary school. Seun (who we popularly called Àgbè) was the best player in school and would beat us in rounds. Haha 😂. One of those afternoons, it felt like I was going to win, I had 2 kings and a 2 other tiles while he had 3 tiles and a king. For a moment, I excitedly boasted about winning and reveled in the idea of winning him for the first time.  Guess what? I lost 😡.  One of the many lessons I learned from playing draughts was the willingness to concede a tile or even my king (in some cases) so that I can ultimately win the game. This lesson stuck and today, it’s one that I use in my dealings with people especially when meeting new people.  For someone with some level of social anxiety, connec...

July 1, 2023 Today, I realized that the commonality of our realities as individuals can be an indicator of our growth, quality of friendships, and a way to check if we need to change our primary circle. You should have other founders in your primary circle if you're a founder. A non-founder friend, however great, doesn’t and can’t share the realities with you. You can’t blame them; they just can’t be the best for you. Sometimes, our friends are not bad people for not helping; they just don’t know how to help, and (we hate to admit it), they are too ashamed to admit it