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Dear Iyoaye: Note to self

I wrote this note to myself the morning I turned 30 and it was born out of my reflection of my journey so far and a peek into the future – how I planned to spend the rest of my life. I wrote this in a journal and pretty much left it there until a few days ago when it popped on my mind again and I wanted to share it. 

Here it goes: 

There are many things to be grateful for! It's been a year of lessons, struggles, wins, and clarity. I am now focused on the next phase—technically, the action phase of my life. For context, I believe life has three stages: Preparation, Action, and Rest. While we don't have control over if and how soon we experience a phase, neither can we control how we get out of a phase— time and chance happen to us all, it is quite safe and easier to think about these phases as equal amounts of time such that you spend 1/3 of your life in each phase or about 50-70% of your life in preparation and action phase combined. (I might write more about this (no promise))

Like I mentioned earlier, I am excited about this new phase, but first, I am deeply grateful for growth, family, love, faith, and friends. 

let's talk about this new phase... 

1. I am committed to a new phase where I am more dependent on God (cos we all don't know what's going on here but he does) and be bold. It's a new chapter and my world should be ready. 

2. I intend to do write, read, and share more whilst helping people do more with their lives (primarily figuring stuff on the fly)

3. Over the years, I've been fortunate to create models and transfer a part of me to others – Dennis, Femi, Gbolahan and others but there is a need for structure that makes this scalable. (Think roots... One begets the other)

4. I'll launch the projects I want to see in this world, caring less about what people think or say. 

5. I am going to be more present to my primary constituency— the clan (Folake, Ooreoluwa and Oreoluwa)

6. I am growing deeper in my love for the father and helping more people know the father. 


The End

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See below for a list of projects I am working on that I'd love for you to check out. When you're done, please tell me if/how you can help (I will appreciate that) in any way. 

1. Linc: Help people connect more in real life through activities that interest them (https://www.linc.co)

2. CareForms: Make building healthcare forms easier, cheaper and scalable for practices. (https://www.careforms.io)

3. Launch Circle: A community of friends building fun things and sharing their experiences. 

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